A word of advice to the soi disant etiquette maven: if you’re going to get snotty with the (frankly, pretty freakin’ gracious) bride for the perceived lapses of etiquette inherent in her non-traditional wedding*, acknowledging either the RSVP request or the polite follow-up note might put you on more solid ground.
Might.
*Yes, yes, the groom and bride and their wedding, but predictably the bride is the only one getting blowback on this.
This kind of thing always makes me check back to see if I’ve done anything wrong! in the last, oh, year or so. Yer freakin me out. Um, we DID rsvp, I’m hoping. Not so much feeling guilty as, er, jes checkin.